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February 9th, 2011

little updates

Richard asked me to marry him. We've been together for 4 years. The few people I told this to get all happy and sparkly about it, as if it was a sure thing that I would say yes.

But I'm not sure I want to. I'm scared to death about repeating the collapse of a relationship like I did with Michiel. I never want to do that again!

We already live together. I have my own money, he has his money. We have friends, do lots of stuff together and have a great life. Who needs marriage?

I think he does.

On the other hand, when I told him why I didn't want to take The Big Step, he just said, "We don't have to do anything until you're ready."
What's the origin of your username? If you could change it to anything else, would you, and what would it be?

It is my Real Life (TM) name.

January 1st, 2011


I wrote a whole long thing about how I screamed at my disabled sister then hung up on her, then LJ deleted it.


Just imagine the guilt for yelling at someone wasn't always handicapped but now is physically and mildly mentally handicapped from a stroke.

Then imagine how good it felt to finally treat her like a normal person and let her know something was not acceptable.

Last, imagine how glad I am not to be in contact with family, outraged brother-in-law or anyone else for quite a while.

Happy new year!

December 25th, 2010

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December 22nd, 2010

New blog

I'm not very good at maintaining two blogs. If you want to hear about my shitty interesting job in Philadelphia, go here

If you want to comment, that's cool but please don't add anything that might point back to me (like don't use my name) If the school district ever found out I was blogging about their blackhole of education, I would lose my job.

On the other hand the prospect of not having to go there anymore and collecting unemployment sounds kind of attractive.

August 30th, 2010

The last hurrah

School starts again on Wednesday. I'll have three different levels to prep for: seniors, juniors and sophomores. Sheesh. Talk about work load!!

This has been the best damned summer in my life. If everything goes well, I'll get another one just like it next year.  :)

August 29th, 2010

Good: I love to garden. One of the biggest draws to buying this house in Philadelphia was the big backyard just waiting for me to do something with it.

Bad: Unfortunately I didn're know that the big trees back there were black walnuts which produce a poison that suffocates all but a few plants near their roots. :/

So I paid $$ and had the trees removed and waited a long time for the juglone poison to go away.

Good: I finally started planning a garden for next spring. Excitement!!!

Bad: Today: discovered a large animal hole near the fence in my backyard! It's possible that some voracious ground hog or gopher or something worse like a skunk has moved in?

Here's some pictures:
The mug shows the size. I guess the hole is about 7" across and looks to be 14" deep.

Mickey thinks it's pretty interesting, but he doesn't have any answers.

August 23rd, 2010

good times
I want to go back to college. Just take a look at these lucky people watching a movie at the recreation center at the University of Missouri-Columbia.

Mom pays the bill and you get all the fun, flirting and recreational drugs you want.

Maybe it's a matter of timing (and money) When I was an undergrad, my dorm was made from concrete blocks and the student union was basically a cheap diner with bad food. *sigh*

August 8th, 2010

No comment necessary

So there we were sweating our brains out in the local gym's exercise class which should be called "We're going to kill you and your abs" when the girl next to me ----- brought out her cell phone and started texting

Now I know the end of the world is coming

August 6th, 2010

Friday Night - low humidity, R at the Phillies' game and the whole house to myself :)

I found some really cool 1940s farm pictures in color. I'd love to put them on my wall

August 1st, 2010

Wanted: Circus Elephant


Did you hear of the yahoo mailing list/group called "freecycle?"

Basically people post stuff they have and want to get rid of like old furniture or plants or baby toys. Other people post stuff they want/would like to have then everyone runs around pickiing up stuff at houses etc.

But there's a big disconnect between what people want and the kind of stuff offered.

Recent offers:
-Dining room chair, needs to be recaned.
-Baby swing, battery cover missing
-Cordless phone, but maybe you can get it to work

Recent wants:
Walkie-talkie for adults
-Food processor
-Moon Jump for kids

Are these people on the same mailing list?? they'd get all that new stuff faster if they made a wedding announcement and posted their registry.

So I'm thinking of posting (anonymously of course) that I want a trained circus elephant to keep in my backyard plus other random ridiculous stuff.

hmmmm  >;)


July 27th, 2010

Run! run away from any DIY


I have the summer off, thanks to teaching hellions kids all year. And since Richard and I moved into a 90 year old house, off course there are things that need to be fixed.

So far I repainted all the baseboards in the livingroom/dining room because I have time and because they were in bad shape. 

Then I looked at the stained carpet on the front stairs and thought this was the perfect time to rip the carpeting up and see what's  underneath on the stairs and our upstairs hallway.

It isn't pretty. Very worn out and neglected wood. Down and out UGLY. So now I need to find a floor guy who will refinish the floors then get a carpet guy to do runners on stair and hallway.

But wait! before I have somebody refinish the backstairs, Richard and I have been talking about getting the kitchen redone (R's paying :) we had talked about taking out the back stairs and possibly making a powder room in the space.

So now, before I get the flooring guy in, I better find out if the back stairs are gonna go.  Can't pay to get them finished and carpeted if they're going. But if that's a load bearing wall, then the stairs have to stay.

This makes my first priority finding a kitchen guy to tell me yes or no on the stairs thing, then get the floor and carpet guys in.

Do you have any idea how hard it is to find anybody to come give quotes on a job - especially in the summer? This means we are totally stuck with ugly floor and stairs until I can get this mess rolling.

My advice: move into a spanking new house or be so rich you can pay minions to take care of this stuff for you.

July 18th, 2010

Updates and Hello!

Love Life:

“There is a certain age when a woman must be beautiful to be loved, and then there comes a time when she must be loved to be beautiful.” Françoise Sagan

If that's true, then I am one of the most beautiful women alive.

Things are still going swimmingly with Richard and me. We've been together more than 3 years. All systems are still "go" and oh yeah are we having fun :)

We bought a house. Thanks to the killing I made sellling my house in Jackson before the real estate market collapsed and after the horrific breakdown of my and Michiel's marriage I was able to buy half a twin here in Philadelphia. (We both pay mortgage)

It's a great place - a lot smaller than the house in Jackson but just right for us. Three bedrooms, two bathrooms, bad kitchen . . no air conditioning, though.

I used to work at a non-profit. Apparently that organization thought their employees should also be  "non-profit" because the pay sucked big time.! Richard carried a lot of the financial weight so money wasn't really a problem except for my knowing I was worth a whole lot more.
Now I work for Philadelphia Public Schools. Got my Pennsylvania teaching certificate and got a huge boost in salary. I have money again! and summers off! I get home at 3:30 every day!

I also write an anonymous blog about Philly schools (can't wait for the gritty, inner-city movie , based on my experiences to come out ;)  This is all fun.

Gawd what a life sucker that is. I just use it to play Scrabble/Lexulous with Bertho, who used to post here at LJ. If you're interested in a game, let's do it. I would be glad to kick your verbal butt ;)

October 7th, 2009

More on that school

About that last school where I blew the whistle about all the bad things going on:

The reporter was poised to publish her story, the city's School Reform Commission was scheduled to have a hearing and ...

nothing happened.

It appears that one of the school's founders, Dwight Evans of the Pennsylvania House of Representatives, threw some protection their way and so the investigation stopped abruptly and any mention of New Media Technology Charter School has disappeared from any of the city's agendas.

Poor kids. What a really bad deal they're getting.

September 7th, 2009

Happy Labor* Day Everyone

*that would be Labour for any of you Canucks out there

I'm not missing my old job which was all about too much work all alone without any co-workers. Now I have a lot of co-workers, students (started on Thursday) and a boatload of interesting people. Some are weird and kooky, some are solid good people and some look like they could become good friends. And the money's better too!

Since I jumper right out of one job and into this other one I did not get a vacation this year. Therefore I am dubbing this four day weekend my Summer Vacation and making the most of it.

What are the rest of you doing this weekend?

August 16th, 2009

This is different!

This is the first Sunday in almost a year where I wasn't crafting a letter of application for a job. What to do with myself? ;)

I got a job! a *new* job! a job that pays $14,000 more than the other place and has regular hours - no more working past 6:00! - and summers off and 10 days at Christmas, etc

Naturally there are caveats. My biggest worry now besides just the weirdness of being the new kid is "Will I be the only white person? am I going to be the token?"

Of course there are the other concerns like "where can I put my lunch" and "what should I wear on the first day"

So stay tuned.

And oh yeah ------ I WON'T MISS YOU PROJECT HOME!!

May 15th, 2009

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Somehow I got laryngitis. I used to think it was kind of a kick back in high school but now it's hugely frustrating. Even my sneezes are non-vocal, aspirant sound effects.

I talk a lot more than I realized: poor Richard has to come closer to hear me whisper vital things like "What time are we leaving tomorrow?" etc

Now that off hand, casual conversation is impossible I find that I have this weird drive to communicate anyway. I a lot of commenting on Facebook and other places. I even needled a neo-con pretty well today. Shame on me: he got all huffy (heh)

Writer's Block: BFF

Who was your first friend on LiveJournal? Are they still on your Friends list?
Dan Widrew and yes, he's still on my Friends' list. He's also a friend on Facebook

May 6th, 2009

The mix of my week

-Grand High Boss on vacation all week
-Turned in my application for PA teaching certificate
-it's Wednesday night so officially I'm over the hump

-Job as shitful as ever
-I'm getting Richard's flu/cold
-It has rained *hard* for 6 of the past seven days

To enjoy:
-Ben Lee's "What's so Bad about Feeling Good"
-I stocked up on chocolate when I went to Ikea
-Some guy named Dave who hit on me at the library, even though I'm not lookin for a new guy

-to get a new job
-warm sunny weather
-a good night's sleep

April 28th, 2009


Do you think the Bush administration should be investigated for using torture?

April 4th, 2009

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I got an estimate of the hospital bill. $30,000 and change. Holy shit what if I didn't have insurance?!

Also -- HR is very apologetic to tell me that I have used all my sick time, personal days and vacation time in being ill.

I now how 6 hours of vacation time coming to me. Any wonder I love this job?

March 12th, 2009

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Long time since I LJ'd but summarizing the past few weeks makes more interesting reading than day by day accounts :)

About a week ago when I woke up to use the bathroom, things were not the same as they usually are for mid-night jaunts to the john. I couldn't really walk - more like I was pitched, tossed, rolled and thrown against walls while the floor heaved and rolled like a mad ship in a tsunami sea

(sorry for the drama.)

Let's just say that I have never been so dizzy in my life. Made it to the bathroom, clawed my way back to bed whereupon I noticed I couldn't read my clock; it was as if I had never seen digits before and I hadn't a clue what they meant.

ugh. Back to sleep, hoping all this would go away.

Fast forward to falling down the stairs and scaring the cats and Richard terribly, the emergency room. CAT scan, MRI, blood work .. all of it.

Walking was impossible and there was a weird thing going on with my eyes -- they wouldn't stay still! they jittered back and forth so that I couldn't focus or even have them open without feeling like I was falling off a cliff. The doctors called it "dancing eyes" which made me think of children's books with merry old gents. Screw that: there was nothing dance-able about what was going on with my eyes.

I became quite the object of interest around the 5th floor. Finally they got the test results and a handsomely dark young doctor told me the results.

The good news he told me, is that you don't have a tumor. And you didn't have a stroke.

So what's wrong? I asked, carefully keeping my eyes closed to keep my dizzy nausea under control.

uhhhh we don't really know he answered. It could be your inner ear or it could be the residue of a really bad migraine

Unbelievable. When will it go away?

He hesitated before answering. We don't know. Maybe a few days, maybe a couple of weeks
So that's where I am today. Not in the hospital and thankfully the "dancing" has calmed down along with the dizziness. I haven't worked in almost 2 weeks and of course my boss is all over me about it (goddamn leave me *alone*! I feel like shit and reading the computer even when I ramp up the text is hard to do)

I scoffed when they told me I should go for Physical Therapy but now I'm ready to go for it. I have an appointment on Monday morning, 7:30 a.m.


February 24th, 2009

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Saturday was my birthday and we happened to have a big housewarming party on the same night. Richard and I didnt' announce in advance about the b-day because we didn't want people to bring presents, just some good food to share around while we supplied the booze, music, warm house and lots of people.

Well! it was great I never had 30 people sing happy birthday to me before then R put on the Beatles' "They say it's your birthday" whereupon four of us drunks danced around the dining room table and into the living room to be the floor show. :) :)

Along the lines of wonderful, I had a phone interview with a charter school yesterday. I think I did pretty well. One of the interview questions was "On a scale of 1-10, 10 being the highest, how would you rate your life?"

That was easy. I gave my life a 8.5-9. Since coming to Philadelphia my circle of friends has grown enormously, I'm living with a wonderful guy, just bought a house and we have a lot of fun.

If they had asked me about work my honest answer would have been a "6" or even lower.

I figure they asked about my life because positive people kind of spread the happiness around, which I'm very glad to do. More fun, more happiness: that's the kind of cycle I like.

February 17th, 2009



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February 16th, 2009

News from my Ex

I got a series of text messages from Michiel yesterday. He hoped I had had a good Valentine's day and that he has two 30 year old girlfriends but they're not as good as me.

And the sailboat sank.
I hear that the Canadian economy is doing just fine. For some reason their banks and investment people didn't go criminal/money-crazy and followed good old-fashioned sensible guidelines.

If it wasn't so cold and that Canada already told me they don't need more people like me, I'd move there.

February 15th, 2009

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Tomorrow's President's Day and guess who has to work :(

February 9th, 2009

This just in . . .

From the subject header of a spam I got:

Make your love locomotive enter her tunnel on a full speed.

gotta love that romantic imagery

January 29th, 2009

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I'd get a lot more done if I didn't have to go to work every day.

January 21st, 2009

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Cold. 29 degrees F the best we could get all week. Remind me of this next summer when I complain about the heat.

January 20th, 2009

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bleh. I hate to drink water or other kinds of beverages. I dunno, they're just boring. *shrug*

So the result this morning I woke up around 4 feeling really awful. Surprise surprise dehydrated :p

Serves me right. I bring a big water bottle to work everyday and drink that but after this 3 day weekend, apparently I'm parched :/

January 19th, 2009

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Oh boy am I excited for the inauguration! For the first time in a lonnnnng time I'm sorry I don't have HBO because I missed last night's big pre-inaug concert.
It's the last day in office for George Bush. There's been a lot of talk in the media lately about Bush's legacy. What do you think he will be most remembered for?
Almost destroying the United States

November 23rd, 2008

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For some reason I was hit with a mysterious ailment early Sat morning - sudden nausau (sound effects!) then overwhelming sleepiness etc

I ended up spending the day sleeping only waking up for brief moments to glance at the clock. Chunks of time passed by and all I did was sleep.

Wasn't hungry. Only mild headahce because I hadn't had caffeine at all.

Meanwhile Richard stopped in now and then to check I was still ok, went out to lunch, went back to the apt to get more stuff (we moved last weekend, btw! and this house is *great*) wrote thank you cards for all the people that helped us move last weekend, went to the Turkey Trot at the Canoe Club, came back around 10 pm and unloaded the car . . what a sleepy bum I am!

I still have no idea what hit me. Now I'm awake at 3 a.m. with only a mildly cranky stomach. wtf?

November 6th, 2008

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Michell Obama, what were you thinkin' when you bought that dress??

November 5th, 2008

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I am under crushing stess at work

November 4th, 2008

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Less than a century ago women weren't allowed to vote!

But I did today :) Barak, I'm rooting for you

The line wasn't excessively long (only half hour wait) and the guy in front of me was friendly enough but (ick) started ranting about voter fraud and Acorn.

"Let's not forget voter suppression I reminded him. There's bound to be shenanigans all over the country today.

He didn't know what I was getting at.

Anyway Mr. Friendly was obviously voting for McPain but I figure between Richard and me, Barack has him beat 2-1. :) So here's hoping.

Did you vote?

November 1st, 2008

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I was cruising through Facebook (yeah I'm there but don't bother: what a wasteland it is.) why do people still think it's cool to post pictures of themselves *on the phone*?

Is it their way of showing 1. their importance (look! someone called me! I'm too busy to put the phone down so you can take my picture) or 2. their technology savviness (look! I know how to use a telephone/cell! I'm so connected!)
The economy stinks. I work for a non-profit and they are frantically going through the budget and red lining every possible thing. I am a little worried they may cut my hours. Actually I would love that but I need the money.
If Obama doesn't win, please someone flush our country down the toilet. It would be the merciful thing to do.
I need some fun and lightheartedness. Instead I have a dentist appointment tomorrow. :/
Richard took the afternoon off and went to the Phillies' victory parade in Center City. He came home happy as a puppy with loads of pictures. I'm so glad I wasn't there. Huge crowds of jostling people are not what I call fun.
I hope the whole world realizes that Sarah Palin will never go away. She'll get her own evangelical talk show and irritate the crap out of us thinking people for years to come.
in other news: we're moving in 2 weeks and I haven't packed a single thing. Maybe I should get busy on that.

October 26th, 2008


I don't really believe in a god or follow a religion. dunno -- it just never seemed to sync with me. Back when i was a kid being raised as a "devout Catholic" (tm) I was told that I was supposed to sync with the church and not the other way around.

Result was me finally seeing that it just wasn't going to work, being stiff and unnatural and fearful and suspicious - in addition to them expecting me to give huge quantities of cash so they could do whatever project they had in mind. New church! air conditioning! golf clubs for the Monsigneur? I don't know.

Remind me to tell you about the Pagan Babies program.

Anyway Richard likes the local Unitarian church because they have a lot of social activities. Also I think he's pretty spiritual. I most often go along because what the hell, it can't hurt. I just zone out during the boring parts.

Today we're going to an Indian feast complete with music at the church. Apparently this is a kind of thanksgiving type holiday so we'll see how it goes.

October 22nd, 2008


what is a 'lither? do I want to be one of those?

is it possible to be one without knowing it?

can I try it before becoming full 'lither?

October 18th, 2008

One of the older teens asked if he could talk to me alone. Turns out that it's possible he got his girlfriend in Florida pregnant.

"Terrell," I told him. "Can I say two words to you: birth control!"

First he laughed, then he scoffed. "Miss Madeleine, birth control is pills. That's for the girl to take care of. That's not for me!"

"Condoms," I said. "Didja ever think of using them?"

"Oh! You think I don't strap myself? you think I don't use protection? I don't want no disease."

Hoo boy. Honestly I don't think this could be his kid because his "girlfriend" lives far away and from what he told me about her, she could be talking paternity with any number of guys.

So what do you talk about at your job? Have you had a fire drill lately? or watched someone eat a slice of pizza in under 20 seconds without choking?

What exactly *do* other people at work beside tell people to throw out their gum, stop running and don't tease the pretty girl because she thinks you're an asshole?

October 15th, 2008

Nervous about the election

I'm getting a little nervous that Obama might not win the election. Polls place him up there pretty good (that is a technical term ;) but I read that John Kerry also showed well in polls right before the election.

He lost. It seems that he didn't carry the necessary states as predicted: people clearly changed their minds about who to vote for between the poll and their actual vote.

When asked if they believe in god, something like 97% of American say that they do. However the way that they live and act shows them to be amoral assholes who obviously don't believe in divine retribution for one second.

Given that people lie on polls and racism and fear are being revved to an all-time high by Repubs right now: Obama stands a good chance to lose.

God save us all. McCain might die shortly after taking office and Palin and her crew of Alaskan born-agains will rule the country.

October 6th, 2008

Celebrity of the Day

We often have famous people visit our building. Moe Cheeks, Jon Bon Jovi.

I don't know if this guy qualifies as a celebrity but he's certainly famous. Today's famous person at work was . . . (drum roll). .

Colin Powell!

I was itching to ask him who he was going to vote for in the next election but we were all firmly told "no questions, no photos." *sigh*

Not like I'd have the courage to ask, but it was a thought. In case you're wondering, he looks just like he does on television only better because he looks like a human.

Oh yes -- secondary famous person who came along with Genl Powell was Billy Cunningham who was somebody famous with basketball around here. Nice guy. We chatted over near the magazine rack.

October 4th, 2008

They turn off our dryer whenever they're lucky enough to catch us doing laundry at the same time they are.

Hahahahaha! we're *leaving* !!!

November 14, the day we close on the new house, is marked on my calendar.

Sarah's Bikini

Here's the scoop on the Palin-bikini-rifle thing. The guy does a nice job explaining the photo and where it went.
I don't know where my sister got this but she put this in an email to me:

Can I call you Joe?
Alaska and Hockey Moms.
Joe 6-Pack
Energy plan!
Greed and corruption!
Governor of an energy state
Gosh Darn It!
Energy plan!
Greed and corruption!
I'm with ya!
this great country of ours
Energy plan!
Greed and corruption!
Alaska and Hockey Moms.
Folks like us
alternative energy
Greed and corruption!
Say it Ain't so, Joe!
Alaska and Hockey Moms.
Energy plan!
Greed and corruption!
you betcha!
Alaska and Hockey Moms.
Energy plan!
Greed and corruption!
Repeat for an hour and a half.

She actually said she understands people worrying about paying for college tuition because that's a concern in her family. Um..., her husband didn't go to college, she squeaked through in 6 years, her daughter is 17, unmarried, pregnant, and not in school and engaged to a high school drop-out. Education a priority? Not so much
"I've only been doin' this for 5 weeks -- I didn't make any promises" -- we won't even go there!

September 23rd, 2008

A typical day

A policeman was shot and killed 5 blocks from where I work while I

led a group of adolescents in the right way to act when someone calls your best friend a "ho"

then noticed that the adult computer skills class had stolen every single magazine from the teen mag rack

while the cichlids hatched more babies

and I finished the mother of all spreadsheets - all 16 pages - and this is the first time I've ever done one in my life

then still was somehow blamed for the way "my teens" acted at the African music concert last night, even though I wasn't there

and at the end of the day realized that I may have to work right up til the minute I die because my finances suck so bad.


September 21st, 2008

More on the Neighbor

Just based on sheer meanness Sarah "Troopergate" Palin ought to consider having my neighbor on staff.

As I have mentioned in the past, Angela has two dogs. One is an overweight chihuahua that she lets shit all over the common area without cleaning up after. The other is a rather ugly and large doberman she keeps on a leash.

I was sitting out here on our little patio and watched Angela *encourage* her doberman to bait a dog behind a fence in a neighboring yard. She was actually enjoying watch the other dog frantically bark and run around. She pulled her dog away only when the neighbor came out to see what the ruckus was about.

Such a bitch.

on the happier side of the news:
We bought a house! It's lovely and bigger than our little apartment and even has storage! This means I can own more than three sweaters at once!

We close on November 14 and have until Dec 1 when our lease is up to move everything out :) :)

Goo'-bye Angela, you sad, sick bitch. I hope I never meet anyone like you again.
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